Today I would like to offer maybe more of a personal reflection than a sermon perhaps. You note-takers out there can put down your pens and paper and just listen. Just listen. Listen with your ears and your hearts to a simple story of a simple woman who has simply transformed the lives of many by the grace-filled story that she allowed herself to be spoken out of, breathed into, and acted from. This is a thoroughly biblical story – however, we may not arrive to any chapters or verses until much later. Until then, let me tell you a story that begins in the early 1960s.
It was in the early 60s that a young mother-of-four chose to take a class at Buena Vista College (now Buena Vista University) in Storm Lake, Iowa. She was a voracious reader and had a mind that was interested and fascinated by the details and beauty of life. The class was to be on the “Life and Times of Jesus of Nazareth” and was taught by an old, retired Methodist pastor. A pastor who prayed that while teaching the facts of and about Jesus – perhaps one, even just one, of the students in his class would come to not only know about Jesus – but would actually come to know Jesus.
And this young mother-of-four did.
This mother-of-four who was raised on Des Moines’ east side in a small house shaded by large oak trees that still stand. Her father had shock-white hair and was a legendary coach and math teacher at Des Moines East High School. He was known as “Quiet Mike.” Her mother’s name was Florence and she had an older sister named Ellen.
She had grown up in a family that didn’t ever really go to church. They were good people – well respected, quiet, hardworking. But they were not religious or even spiritual. Our mother-of-four graduated from high school and ended up studying at Iowa State College. She received her degree in Home Economics and was to be a Home Economics teacher in High School. But while at Iowa State she met a member of the Iowa State football team. He was a farm-boy from northwest Iowa and was itching to get back and farm once he graduated college. This football star and our mother-of-four were married and eventually returned home to the farm just south of Rolfe, Iowa. This now-husband of our mother-of-four was the third generation to farm this land in Pocahontas County. He and his bride moved into the large farmhouse that his father had built and they created a life for themselves. He worked hard in the field, she worked hard in the kitchen and in the garden. They had children – three in quick succession and then one more a few years later on.
Our third-generation farmer had grown up going to the Presbyterian Church in Rolfe. So, upon returning to the farm – that’s where he and his new bride continued to go to church. In fact his whole family went to that church. His father was one of 12 children – most of whom stayed in the area so the Presbyterian Church in Rolfe was filled with uncles, aunts, and cousins. Our mother-of-four had no difficulty going to church. She had nothing against church or Christianity or religion – in fact, she thought it was pretty interesting stuff. Her children attended Sunday School and learned about Jesus. They said grace at meals and read the Bible.
This mother-of-four was a good woman. She did the right thing and was well thought of in her community, church, and family. She was quiet and reserved – but not overly so. So listened well and was loyal. She had a sense of right and wrong – and wanted to do the right thing, live a good life, and raise a healthy and happy family.
She liked to read and had a naturally curious mind so she would occasionally take college classes, attend lectures, and read books. Not a lot – her life was not filled with these sorts of things (she was both a mother and farmers-wife after all) – but she would pursue things and ideas with her mind as her time and life permitted.
So, she decided to take a class on Jesus. She had been going to church for a number of years with her husband at the Presbyterian Church in Rolfe and had heard a lot about him. She knew he was important – but didn’t really feel like she knew all that much about him. So, she took the class. And that old Methodist pastor’s prayer was answered.
Our mother-of-four – my Grandma – came to know Jesus during the course of that class in Storm Lake, Iowa. Over the course of a decade of regular and faithful church attendance she had come to know quite a bit about Jesus – but she came to see during this small and seemingly inconsequential class that that wasn’t enough. That knowing about Jesus was great – but that was not the same as knowing Jesus himself. At the conclusion of the class – on the last day as the story goes – this old Methodist pastor presented the Gospel of Grace to the people in his class. A message of joy to my grandmother’s ears. For, up till that point, she had just kind of assumed that doing the right thing, reading her Bible, and going to church is what mattered. But she found out that it didn’t. She found out that it was all about Grace.
And that’s what this little reflection is all about this morning: Grace. That’s a word that we throw around a lot in the church. God’s Grace. The Gospel of Grace. Saved by Grace. But, what is Grace?
Grace is an underserved gift. Unmerited favor. Unearned joy. Uncultivated bounty. Untended flourishing. Unworked for rest.
Grace is God coming to us – not us going to God. For we are neither strong enough nor wise enough to find our way to him. Grace is God loving us – not us loving God. For we are neither faithful enough nor humble enough to give ourselves to him with our whole hearts.
And God in his Grace says, “That’s right. You are not strong enough, not wise enough, not faithful enough, not humble enough.” But then God says, “But in your condition I will come to you. I will pursue you. I will find you. I will save you. I will make you my child. This is only because I love you. Do you understand?”
We read of this Grace - this love that God has for us - in the book of Ephesians. The apostle Paul writes, And you were dead in the trespasses and sins in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience – among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind. But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ - by grace you have been saved – and raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, so that in the coming ages he might show the immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works so that no man may boast.”
But we often fail to understand – we fail to grasp the breadth and length and height and depth – of the love of Christ. And it wasn’t until that class in Storm Lake that my grandma knew this unearned and given love – this Grace. She had known that God is love, she had heard of the Grace in Christ Jesus – but she had not known that Jesus loved her. That he had come for her, that he had died as a substitute for her, that he rose again and had conquered the forces of death that had hold on her. Now it was personal.
But now she knew and she knew him. She learned that she could come before him in prayer boldly and bravely – knowing that she was completely loved and utterly washed clean and forgiven. This did not make her self-righteous or religious or pious – but full of joy. Because she knew that the good life that she had lived was of no consequence – it didn’t matter at all - when it came to his love. She opened her hands and accepted his love and the gift of his Grace – and she was changed, and changed forever.
Her four children noticed that their mother was so happy now. That is what they remember of this time. All of a sudden they sensed their mother’s joy. She was at rest in the depth of God’s love for her. She knew that she was his daughter and that she could find rest in him. And a family was transformed because of Grace.
I could go on about the details of my grandma’s life – they would, perhaps, benefit us as we attempt to reflect on Grace this morning. But the purpose of my telling these personal stories are not so much about the personal stories in themselves – for the stories serve as but a testament, a testimony, of the Grace of God.
For God’s Grace that is demonstrated in my grandma’s life continues to go forward. While I was growing up she had (and still has) an old music box that looks like a church. It is made out of some sort of metal sheeting and painted brown or tan. It looks like a little country church made out of tin – a little smaller than a shoe box. But at one end of this tin church is a handle crank that a person can wind up, let go, and hear the tune of Amazing Grace. Whenever I hear that old hymn I think of my grandmother’s silly little music box - that was a sort of toy. But I remember singing the words of that hymn with my grandmother to the clink-y notes of that music box. Words that I had no context for, no life-experience to appreciate, no real failures to find comfort in. But as we sang the words – my grandma teaching them to me as we went along – I could tell that we were no longer playing with a toy. We weren’t really playing at all anymore. Something else had happened – something deep and serious – and yet full of joy. I didn’t know it at the time – and certainly wouldn’t have put it like this then – but we were worshiping. We were worshiping the God of Grace – the Grace that had so transformed by grandma’s heart and life. “Out of the mouths of babes and infants…” as the verse goes. We were singing:
Amazing Grace/how sweet the sound/That saved a wretch like me/I once was lost but now am found/Was blind, but now I see.
The testimonies and stories that are tied and connected to this story are many. I have heard some, guessed a few, and will never know most. Stories of God’s Grace going forward through my grandma’s simple life of joy in her weakness, but God’s strength. Her failures, but God’s Grace. Stories of her church, family, and community – and all the little connections and people and places in between. For many more families were transformed by God’s Grace. But these aren’t really my stories to tell.
But I do have my story to tell - my own testimony to God’s Grace. And it certainly is not worth telling because of how great everything is, or turns out, but it is worth telling because of how it demonstrates and tells of the Grace of God.
I don’t know a time in my life when I didn’t love Jesus and desire to follow Him. I had prayed to accept Jesus as my Lord and Savior when I was 6. I believed that He had died on the cross for my sins. I was a serious little boy and I remember taking spiritual things pretty seriously. Of course, there’d be ups and downs. I’d go to camp and be “on fire” for God for a while – but then kind of come back down to earth. I’d be really good and diligent about having a regular quiet time for weeks and maybe months at a time – but then things would cool off, I’d get busy, or whatever else would happen. I’m sure I believed that I was saved by Grace – but I had really no clue as to how Grace continued to apply to my life.
I think my general mindset was – and maybe some of you can relate with me here – I was saved by Grace, by the free gift of salvation by Jesus dying on the cross for my sins, and now I was trying to follow him, obey him, and do the right things for him. Basically, I believed that I was saved by Grace but was made a “good Christian” by the hard work of doing the right thing out of some sense of loyalty or duty or obligation for the one who had saved me.
And this whole arrangement worked out just fine while things were going well, while I was strong and at peace, while I could manage and protect my life. But halfway through college things began to fall apart. I endured several painful relationships that went bad, I was depressed and confused about the most basic elements of faith and life, and I was just plain-old exhausted by my life of always working so hard to be and do the right thing out of obligation to God.
I dropped out – leaving the small-Christian college that I was attending. I moved to the quiet and dark woods of the northern Minnesota border. And the Lord showed him the depth of his Grace for me. In his Word and in Creation He showed me that my continued goodness and hardwork amounted to nothing - that I was exhausting myself in righteousness – not because it pleased God– but because I wanted to avoid him. I wanted control of my life – to rely on God for salvation, but to then kind of leave Grace for the people who just didn’t quite have it all together. I knew there were people who needed God’s Grace – and I knew that He would gracious give it to them – so they could get back on their feet and get it back together like me. Basically living a self-sufficient and righteous life out of my own strength and goodness – out of duty, obligation, and loyalty to God.
But God drowned me in his love and He transformed my life by Grace. He showed me that it was ALL ABOUT grace – from beginning to end. There was no moving past it. It is Grace that continues to transform us – not righteousness. It is Grace plus nothing, Grace and nothing, Grace but nothing, Grace then nothing. We attempt to add to Grace for many reasons perhaps – but for me (then as now) I attempt to add to Grace to stay in control, to make myself worthy of something – even if only in my own eyes, to keep myself from being completely and utterly at the mercy of God. I attempt to add to Grace that others might think well of me – that the Father might reserve a special place in His heart for me.
But these are lies, lies, lies. It is Grace that continues to transform – not righteousness. We add nothing to the equation. There is no pulling yourself up by the bootstraps, no helping yourself, no saving yourself, no proving yourself. There is only Grace – the free gift of God’s love and transforming power for those who look to him and accept it. Salvation and the Christian Life is no gentleman’s agreement whereby we sort of sit down at a table with the Lord and domestically arrange the terms of our salvation and discipleship. Salvation and the Christian Life is the desperate losing of oneself in the love of God that He has endlessly pours down upon us – most perfectly and completely in Christ Jesus.
There is a familiar passage in the book of Luke that resonates here. It is the story that we call “The Parable of the Prodigal Son.” And the way we often tell the story is to emphasize the Grace of God to the prodigal, lost, or younger son. We are amazed by the depth of God’s Grace for the one who utterly rejected him and turned to the pleasures and pursuits of the world. And that is certainly a key portion to the story. But there is another son as well – the elder son. The son who has always has done everything right. The son who has worked hard at his righteousness. The son who has been attempting to merit something in the sight of his father.
As I read this familiar passage this morning – let me ask you: Which son are you?
There was a man who had two sons. And the younger of them said to his father, “Father, give me the share of property that is coming to me.” And he divided his property between them. Not many days later, the younger son gathered all he had and took a journey into a far country, and there hr squandered his property in reckless living. And when he had spent everything, a severe famine arose in that country, and he began to be in need. So he went and hired himself out to one of the citizens of that country, who sent him into his fields to feed pigs. And he was longing to be fed with the pods that the pigs ate, and no one gave him anything.
But when he came to himself, he said, “How many of my father’s hired servants have more than enough bread, but I perish here with hunger! I will arise and go to my father, and I will say to him, “Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son. Treat me as one of your hired servants.” And he arose and came to his father. But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion, and ran and embraced him and kissed him. And the son said to him, “Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.” But the father said to his servants, “Bring quickly the best robe, and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet. And bring the fattened calf and kill it, and let us eat and celebrate. For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found.” And they began to celebrate.
Now his older son was in the field, and as he came and drew near to the house, he heard music and dancing. And he called one of the servants and asked what these things meant. And he said to him, “Your brother has come, and your father has killed the fattened calf, because he has received him back safe and sound.” But he was angry and refused to go in. His father came out and entreated him, but he answered his father, “Look, these many years I have served you, and I never disobeyed your command, yet you never gave me a young goat, that I might celebrate with my friends. But when this son of yours came, who has devoured your property with prostitutes, you killed the fattened calf for him!” And he said to him, “Son, you are always with me, and all that is mine is yours. It was fitting to celebrate and be glad, for this your brother was dead, and is alive; he was lost and is found.”
Well, let me say, that I am often the elder brother. That is what I saw when I dropped out of college – nearly 10 years ago now. Which are you? We all sin – yes, of course. But is your righteousness an effort to stay away from the awful mercies of God? Are your good works little efforts of proving your worth to God, your family, or – even – yourself? Is Grace something that you begrudgingly give those who “need it” – but you are able to function pretty well without it?
If this describes you as it often does me, you may need to repent of your righteousness. That’s right. Repent of your good works. I, you, all of us are prone to use our hard work, respectability, and goodness in the same way that the younger son used his wild and crazy ways – to distance ourselves from the Father by showing ourselves to not really need him, to keep control of our lives, to show ourselves not to be so desperately in need of his Grace to us.
This reflection on Grace is mostly for those elder brothers out there – people recovering from their righteousness. People like me. People who, perhaps, are tired of living by duty, obligation, and loyalty – people who want to live freely in his love, swim lengths in his provision, and dive to the depths of his Grace.
If that’s you let me encourage you to let go. Let go of your righteousness and your hard work and your goodness. I know it’s not easy if that’s what your life has been all about – but you will only manage to damage yourself and those around you if you live by your righteousness. Let Grace sweep you away.
And that – I think – is maybe how my grandma’s simple testimony to Grace has been so profound. It is Grace that continues to transform us into the people that God calls us to be – never righteousness. Really, if you met my grandmother, you would not be amazed by her charisma, charm, or personality. She is just a mother-of-four. A farmers-wife. But she has allowed herself to swim in the breadth and length and height and depth of God’s love for her. His love that is freely given to you. His gift of Grace. Let us pray.